This thought lingers in my mind often. I’ve judged much by how I’ve seen this unfold. I’ve seen it in the church. I see it on tv. I see it in my kids movies. I see it everywhere. This has gone on for far too long.
Ladies, let’s step it up and show the world (and more importantly our daughters and other young women in our lives), how this is done.
This all came to a head on Christmas day. Yup. Christmas.
We were watching Brave. Yes, that cute little Disney movie where everyone has a thick Scottish accent. Cute movie. Strong women.
The strong is awesome. How it is portrayed is my HUGE issue.
Women – our purpose is beautiful. It is not weak. It is not passive. It is strong, beautiful, God ordained and grace covered. It requires leading and guiding from the Holy Spirit because it is indeed far greater than we can do on our own. We have much to offer to a room and to the world. To quote Stasi Eldredge “we speak to others that all is well, because of God all shall be well”. Proverbs says that a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised and she is clothed with dignity and strength. Psalms says that “surely goodness and mercy shall follow”. Thanks to Pastor Shelly Nelson, I am constantly reminded that I leave goodness and mercy in my wake.
We are fierce. We handle trials. We handle heartbreak. We weep, we comfort, we are loyal and we feel much pain. We know that joy comes in the morning. We live as an example of God’s heart. He made us on purpose.
This is all true. I speak this with much passion and a desire to live that example and speak this to others. We as women want to offer dignity back to other women who are broken.
There is more.
This strength doesn’t have a camoflage. At it’s rawest state, it is evident.
Raw – not a fun word. It’s exposed. No hiding.
We have strength to offer. We are pretty much awesome.
Here is my beef…
When the men in our lives feel belittled, out to be the idiot, a constant failure and disrespected by us; we have failed.
I’m not just talking about our husbands. This goes for brothers, boyfriends, co-workers, men in our community…um…our SONS…
Imagine what could change if we modeled this for our daughters.
Imagine a shift in a whole culture of men, when our dignity and strength treats them as such. When it invites instead of nags, encourages instead of belittles and recognizes our differences as gifts instead of a curse that we don’t understand.
How does this sound for a New Years Resolution?